Etiquette

Auntie

8:08 PM

If there is one thing that felt wierd to me is using "nicknames" to address some persons, and among a variety of title "Auntie" is a very puzzling one really.

Technically you address to someone you don't know well and who is senior to you as "Auntie" if it's a woman (logic) and "Uncle" if it's a guy.
As an example, when a kid bump into a lady in a public place, in the west his mom would say something "Say : Sorry Madam" Well in India it's "Sorry Auntie". I'm an Auntie here to any kids around because I'm clearly older.
When I was living in Chennai, the landlady who was living downstair was called Auntie by everybody in the house, this must be the time I first got introduced to that Aunty/Uncle thing.

While Autie or Uncle are titles of informal respect, they can also be pejorative and used to describe an old fashionned lady guardian of morale and good manners. Every familly here have a couple of old Aunties who are world champion gossipers. The stereotypical Auntie is  generally portrayed as a fat old lady with several layers of spare tires between the "choli" (blouse worn with a sari) and the skirt part of the Sari. Equally, an Uncle is portrayed with a beer belly, and balding.
Those are the stereotypes, and I must say you guys really need to see one fat Auntie/Uncle to know what I'm talking about. The counterpart in the west would be the mean spirited cat lady with rollers in her hair. 

Those days I'm still trying to adjust to the fact my maid calls me Auntie (I'm younger than her) and that dbf is reffered as Uncle by her. My previous maid was calling me "didi" (pronounced deedee which means big sister). It makes me feel like between my old flat and the new one I grew old instantly.

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