Reflexion on Articles

Knot or Not?

10:31 AM

In Yesterday's edition of "The Hindu" there was an interesting article about how the next generation is less in a hurry to tie the knot that had me smile :

India is big on marriage, getting married is a purpose in itself, parents worry about finding the perfect match for their son or daughter with the help of the entire extended family and a couple of trusty astrologers. Girls have to be fair, polite, and good wives material, men have to be successful, have a high paying job, good education and the possibility to relocate to US is not under looked.
A girl becomes a problem when she isn't married at age 25 and a boy should ideally not be too much over 30, parents are anxious to meet the deadlines here, as if their kids had an untold "Best before" date printed on them.

The next generation studies longer, start a career later too, and generally want to enjoy life before ending up being a respectable uncle or auntie. As a girl from the west, I don't think there is anything wrong here, but I can see how it might irk the guardians of yesteryear's moral values, aka parents.
In the article they were mentioning that a couple of guys heavily got tattooed and pierced in an effort to ward any girl that their parents would push their way, and that one had me laugh, because no matter where you go it seem that the older generation has issues with tattoos and multiple piercing. And I can see how getting some if you are an Indian guy would forever repel the good demure and traditional Indian girl most parents would dream to have as part of their family. Incidentally, there are a couple of girls out there who find a tattoo or two really cute if not hot. And they aren't really saying how many girls have one as well. I'm pretty sure there are quite a couple of ladies out there who went for one pretty much in the same way their male counterpart did, but had them in more easily concealable places.

Swiss culture is a bit more liberal especially when it comes to love, dating and life partner arrangement, but when I decided to get my tattoo, my mom rolled her eyes wondering why oh why I even wanted to mutilate my skin, while my Grandmother didn't like it at all calling it plain stupid and going into great length saying that it was going to hurt my reputation as a good girl (who said I was all good anyway) and that it would look awful as I age and that the black ink would turn green (whatever I had it for 7 years now it is still as black as can be). When my cousin hopped on the bandwagon she added another layer, but my Aunt observed that it won't looks as bad and weird anymore as it's the next hip thing and in the future respectable 50 years old people will come with patterned skin.

Reading that article about Gen Next kids doing their best to preserve their freedom and wanting to choose for themselves is really interesting, it is yet another example of the eternal conflict of clashes between generations. And I think instead of getting too offended by those changes, parents should learn to keep discussion lines open and reflect on their own rebellious days. We all had our wild days and parents telling us we weren't socially acceptable, but we are all pretty good adults right?
And on the Indian marriage institution, well just because kids want to delay it or have more say on how they want it to be or with whom, doesn't mean it is doomed, it's just changing pretty much in the same way the entire world has kept changing for the past few millenniums. That's called evolution.


  1. I guess people are the same, all over the world.


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